The Wait Is Over!

In the wee hours of November 3rd history was made as the Chicago Cubs defeated the Cleveland Indians 8-7.  In the 10th inning of game 7 myself and millions of others watched on pins and needles as the teams battled it out, what a game!  What a series!


The World Series was a welcome distraction to the political circus we’ve all been forced to endure over the past months.   At a time in our country where tensions are at an all time high I think a Cubs victory was just what the doctor ordered.  Now don’t get me wrong, I’m an Orioles fan through and through but when the O’s were out and the world series started I became a Cubs fan.  It was a natural transition, I mean, both teams have so much in common:

  •  Awesome stadium- check!
  • Haven’t won a series in over 30 years- check!
  • Unwavering, die hard fan base-  check!


The thing that makes my heart happy is that I wasn’t the only one who became a Cubs fan when the World Series started.  The entire country (I’m sure even the Indians fans deep, deeeep, down) wanted the Cubs to win.  I was watching from the couch in my little island home but you could feel the energy of the game.  You could feel the entire country routing for the Cubs to win.  Their victory became our victory proving that even 108 year old curses can be broken, new records can be set, and when you come together as a team with a want and desire for victory that is so strong you have no choice but to be successful.

Since the Cubs World Series win there have been so many wonderful stories about Cubs fans, here are a four of my favorites:

1.  The guy who called the Cubs victory back in his 1993 senior yearbook.


2.  The girl who got to watch the win with her grandfather, a lifelong Cubs fan.

3. The guy who drove over 6 hours to watch the game with his late father at his gravesite to fulfill a promise he made 40 years ago.

4.  The 5 million people who showed up to celebrate the Cubs victory making it the 7th largest gathering in human history.



The wait is over!  Congratulations to the City of Chicago, the Chicago Cubs, and all of the Cubs fans out there across the globe, enjoy the sweet taste of victory!  Cheers!

What’s Your Title?

Right now I’m reading this book called “You Are A Bad Ass.  How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Live an Awesome Life” by Jen Sincero. I’m not going to lie, the bright cover and BADASS in all caps is what drew me to the book but the content is just as colorful.


If you need a pick me up, or even if you don’t, I suggest reading this gem.  “In this refreshingly blunt how-to guide, Sincero, serves up 27 bite-sized chapters full of hilariously inspiring stories, life-changing insights, easy exercises and the occasional swear word.”

Like many self help books, each chapter starts with a quote, author of the quote, and a title. i.e.  “I carried a watermelon” ~Francis “Baby” Housman, college student, dancer, philanthropist.

A few chapters in one of these quotes and titles stuck out to me and I haven’t stopped thinking about it since.

“When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears” ~ Anthony Robbins, speaker, motivator, life-changer.


Speaker.  Motivator.  Life-changer.  Let those words sink in.

Those are some pretty awesome words to describe someone.  And I thought to myself, well shit, I want that to be my title too.  So, where do I begin?

First I should get over my fear of public speaking.  It’s really not my strong suit and I usually break out into hives (the severity depends on the size of the crowd).  But honestly, I feel like I’ve got some great things to say and I need to get over it.

Motivator.  I think I have that one down but there’s always room for improvement.

And life-changer.  This one is particularly funny and grabbed my attention because my buddy Paul, my sister, and myself have a running joke refer to Kate as “life-changer”.  But then after reading the term life-changer describing someone other than my sister, I had another lightbulb moment.  Aren’t we all life-changers?  Don’t we all change someone’s life in one way or another every day?  I mean, at least that’s what I strive to do.  I kid you not, every day I wake up I think to myself, how can I make someone’s day better.  I think that’s the start to changing someone’s life, first start with changing/ brightening their day!

So as we head into the weekend, some food for thought… What sayings would you like to be remembered by.  And more importantly, what’s your title?

“Get with the gets” ~Krystal Thomas, writer, motivator, flow amplifier, life-changer



Everyday is Friday!

Raise your hand if you feel like every day is Friday!  I’m raising both hands, one because I am living my dream and I do feel like every day is Friday here in The Keys, and the other because I honestly have no freaking clue where my weeks go.  I mean, I could tell you by looking at my iCal what I’ve done over the past week, month, year, etc., but time is going by so fast.  Where does my work week go?  Where do my weekends go?  Where are my beloved Super Soul Sundays?!  Every day is Friday…


They say when you ask the Universe for something you should be ready to receive it.  First, I’m going to tell you about the past year I’ve had (since I’ve only written four (4!!!) blog posts in the past calendar year we have some catching up to do!) because it’s pretty amazing and while I know that it wasn’t just one thing that made everything come together, there was one tool I used that changed my life and sent me on the craziest ride of my life (so far)… The Map.


I should start by saying I have anxiety.  Bad.  Like really bad.  Like to the point that it physically effects me.  So last June I went to my doctor and long story short she told me that she could put me on some meds to take the edge off.  We talked a little about spirituality and  I left the doctors office with a prescription for an anti-depressant and a book recommendation for The Map.  I filled the scrip and ordered the book on Amazon.  Two months after starting the meds I stopped taking them but I still kept reading the Map and doing the work.  And I do mean work.  And then #BOOM. It starts happening.

Probably a coincidence right?  I read a book, did some soul searching and then like a magic dream start coming true?  No, it’s not a coincidence.  Its intentional.  Because I stated my intentions with a smile every morning to myself in the mirror and made myself and the Universe listen.

I have made some wonderful new friendships, not only personally but professionally as well; met the man of my dreams (#Edwinning),  sold almost $7million in real estate in 2016 and became debt free, and hope to purchase my first home by the end of the year.  I attribute it to The Map.   Everyone should read this book.  What’ve you got to lose?

The Map is a book about the law of attraction and how the Universe will respond to your desires.  It teaches you how to have an attitude of abundance instead of lack.  Think about it… if you only focus on what you don’t have how are you going to bring what you want into your life?  You are focusing on the lack rather than the abundance.  Want to get out of debt, start being grateful for the pennies you find on the streets and the pennies will turn into dollars.

So in closing, every day is Friday for me because I’m so damn busy living my dream, and you should be too.  Cheers!


Wake Up America!


Before you read any further I want you to imagine this.  Imagine the sounds of cell phones of 50+ people ringing but going unanswered.  Loved ones calling the victims to see if they are OK, only to have their calls go unanswered for hours.  The chiming of text tones rivaling the sounds of a pinball machine.   That’s the sound track that played as the first responders waded through bodies in PULSE night club asking victims to “raise your hand if you are alive”.

It’s taken me almost 48 hours to figure out how to put into words how I feel about the MURDERS that took place in Orlando yesterday morning.  So without further ado… here goes.

I’m devastated.  It’s an act of TERROR.  It’s an act of War.

The massacre in Orlando was deliberate and disgusting.  Hate crime doesn’t even begin to cover it.  What happened in Orlando, the largest massacre in US history, was a hate crime against not just a group of American’s but America in general.  Because, NEWSFLASH, Radical Islamist hate America, Americans, and everything we stand for.  So that being said does that mean I am now under attack.  Because I choose love?  Because I choose to accept everyone regardless of their skin color, religious affiliation or sexual orientation?  I for one am proud to stand with the LGBTQ community.

If you think that gun control and stricter gun laws would have prevented this attack you need to get your head out of your ass.  If it wasn’t an AR-15 it would have been a bomb.  And if it weren’t a bomb it would have been a  plane.  It would have happened regardless because of ISIS and their hate for not only the LGBTQ community but for Americans in general.

This hits close to home for me because I live in Key West, FL.  Our motto is One Human Family. I walk past drag queens on the reg and just the other day got glitter bombed at a housewarming party by a dude wearing black angel wings and a tube sock.   Everyone is accepted here, everyone.  And I don’t want to have to worry about my black angel winged friend Max, the drag queen next door,  or myself for that matter just for having fun and being myself.

This toddler pretty much sums up what I’d like to say (aside from fuck off) to ISIS and everyone else who thinks America is so terrible:

The person who committed this act pledged allegiance to ISIS when HE made the  911 call in Orlando.  This person was on the FBI watch list and interviewed on more than one occasion for radical Islamic ties.  This person cheered”that’s what America deserves” during the 9/11 attacks, while his classmates watched in horror.  This shit is real.  And it’s scary.  What happened yesterday will go down in history.  Think 9/11, think Paris, think Boston, think San Bernardino, and now sadly, think Orlando.

I’m sick of the political correctness in this country.  I’m tired of the leaders of our country using a time out approach for ISIS.  Whatever happened to taking your belt off and whipping some ass?   I mean Jesus, I’m not one for corporal punishment but how many people have to die before not only our country to realize that ISIS isn’t just some piddly underground group in the desert.  These are calculated killers that have amassed a large following and are continuing to grow.


And yes, Arney, ISIS is a tumor.  ISIS is America’s tomahhhhh.   ISIS is the world’s tumor.  And someone needs to grow or find some balls and do something about it.  Has anyone seen the captain’s balls?

It’s doubtful anything will change in the next few months but I urge you to take stock in the upcoming election. It’s important.  Do your own research and draw your own conclusions.  Don’t believe all the media hype but do use it as a catalyst to do your own research on the issues that are important to you.  To say this election is important is an understatement.  Yesterday morning ISIS took the right to vote away from 49 people, and as an American, you can’t afford not to vote.


My heart and prayers go out to those who lost their lives in Orlando as well as the friends and family of both the victims and survivors.  I am so so sorry and cannot even begin to imagine what you have been through and the long road to recovery ahead.

15 Take Aways from 2015

So it’s New Year’s Eve and if you are anything like me you are probably sitting there wondering where the year went?!  Seriously, it seems like 2015 popped in for a quick hello and then boom!  Here comes 2016.

Santa Wrecking Ball

This is usually the day of the year that Facebook floods with everyone saying how they can’t wait for the year to be over.  This year I encourage you to do something different.  Embrace the struggles because they are teaching you something. Reflect on the good times and manifest even more good times for 2016.  Every one is yearning for a fresh start and that’s exactly what everyone gets when January 1 rolls around.  A fresh start.  A chance to try again.

And to close out 2015 here are my take aways from 2015:

Slow Down:  In Key West we have a saying “Slow Down, This Ain’t The Mainland” that has become so popular that it has its own bumper sticker and is featured on 1/2 the vehicles in KDub.  But really, slow down.  Why is everyone in such a hurry?  I’ve come to believe that you are exactly where you are supposed to be at each moment.  Isn’t it a lovely thought… that you are where you are EXACTLY where you are supposed to be.  Kind of takes the pressure off right?  Knowing the universe is guiding you to where you need to be at this very moment.Slow Down

Check Your Tone:  Often it’s not what you say but how you say it.  Watch your tone as you speak to people throughout the day.  One of my favorite saying is “You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar”.  A smile (and southern accent if you have one) goes a long way too.

Jenny Watch Your TonePut Yourself First:  I like to call this one the airplane rule.  One of the things that the flight attendants tell you in their safety spiel is that should the cabin pressure drop and the oxygen masks are needed be sure to put your own mask on first before helping others.  The theory behind this is if something happens to you how will you be able to help others?  Take time for yourself, it’s important.

Flight AttendantFigure Yourself Out (and Use The Map to Get There):  If you don’t know what you want and where you are going how can you expect others to be on board and to help you get to where you need/ want to be.  Know what you want in life and have a plan to get there.  Put this book on your reading list for 2016.  It will change your life :  The Map by Boni Lonnsburry

The Map

Independence Is The New Black:  There is nothing sexier than a man or woman who can get shit done.  Take some of your power back, you are stronger than you think and wiser than you know.  I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T, do you know what that mean[s]!
I know what I wantRoutine is Soothing:  Figure out a routine that works for you.  Whether it’s a morning routine, nightly routine, a daily routine. Even if it’s just 5 minutes of quiet time while drinking your coffee. Whatever it is figure one out and stick to it. You may have to try a few different things but tweak it as you go and figure out what works best for you.  It will bring you a peace of mind and eventually, something to look forward to.
Morning Scrolling Gives Away Your Power:  We use our cell phones for everything now a days.  It’s our alarm clock, our lifeline, our address book, our portable photo album, our news source.  Stop wasting time scrolling through Facebook in the mornings.  You have no control over what information or news your FB friends will be feeding you.  Why risk starting your day with a rant about traffic,  politics, or whatever else that is shitty going on in the world.  I didn’t even realize it but when I stopped the morning scroll my anxiety decreased dramatically in the mornings.

Adopt Morning Pages: Every morning write three pages of brain drain before you start your day.  Doesn’t matter what you write, if it’s grammatically correct, or even if it makes sense.  Just get a notebook or some paper and write 3 pages.  This will help take away some of your creative blocks and make it easier for you to tune in.

Kindness is Underrated:  Let someone in front of you in the grocery store that only has one item.  Hold the door for someone.  Give directions.  Simply smile.  The world needs more of it.
Perfection is Perception:  We’ve all heard the saying “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, well so is perfection.  Try your best, not for perfection.  There will always be something that can be tweaked or improved, just do your best, that is the definition of perfection to me.  Remember, we are all works in progress.
Time Does NOT Heal All Wounds:  Whoever said that time heals all wounds is a liar.  Time doesn’t heal anything, it just lessens the blow.  If you are suffering take the time you need to at least begin the healing process.  Time will help you to heal, but you will have to do the grunt work. It’s worth it.

Be Impeccable With Your Word:   We all have those friends that cancel on us last-minute, or plan something months in advance because it sounds like a great idea but then when the time rolls around to actually carry out the plan they/ we fall short and it sucks.  If you say you are going to do something do it.  Remember it all starts with you.  Do not break promises to yourself to accommodate others (see #3).
Pinky PromiseSelf Talk is Bigger Than You:  Be mindful of your self talk/ think, it’s a conversation with the universe.  The other day I was sitting with a friend on my couch and they were just going on and on about how terrible they felt and what a shitty person they thought they were.  You see my friend was in this nasty habit of bashing herself for all her missteps instead of focusing on the progress she had made.  I don’t let people talk about my friends like that, even when it’s a friend talking about themselves.  I told her “stop talking about my friend like that” and I could see her immediately taken aback. It gives us a different perspective; we wouldn’t let others talk about our friends in a negative way so don’t let people talk about themselves that way either.  Stop putting yourself down, the universe is listening.

What Do I Want The End Result To Be?:  This is a question that has changed the way I approach everything in my life.  Whenever I’m making a choice or change I ask my self, “what do you want the end result to be”.  It forces you to think of things outside of your scope and often times will give you a different perspective on your situation at hand.

Happiness (and lipstick) Looks Good On Everyone:  Period.

Sionara 2015, bring on 2016!  Cheers!