My (not so) Perfect Life

Recently I traveled to the Dominican Republic to celebrate my homegirl’s birthday and bachelorette party.  The 4 days prior to the trip I had been in Orlando for the Florida Realtors conference and I meticulously packed for the trip because I knew I was leaving directly from Orlando and meeting the girls in Miami.  There are two items that I never leave home without when I am traveling:  my sister Ashlee’s thumbprint necklace and my kindle.  When I was packing my jewelry for the trip I noticed that the clasp to my necklace was broken so I decided not to take it this trip for fear of losing it.  So there I am, just myself and my kindle and a carry on, ready for our next adventure.

The Florida Realtors Conference was awesome.  Mind blowing and numbing actually.  It’s so much information that when I got back to my hotel room I was even more happy to have my Kindle with me because it was a welcome distraction from the information overload.  The last night in Orlando was awesome and of course the night I decided 3 martinis and a few glasses of wine would be a fun last hoorah!

KT FL Realtor

My flight for Miami was the next morning at 7am.  I left my hotel room at 4:30am, made it through the Uber ride without projectile vomiting, security, and the Starbucks line only to settle in at my gate and realize I forgot my kindle.

Dun. Dun. Dun…

I’m not a book snob by any means.  In fact, there’s nothing I love more than to curl up with a good old book.  The smells and feels of a book are all part of the experience but there is something to be said about having a practically weightless device full of thousands of books in your palm at any given moment.  So without my kindle, once I got to the Miami airport I perused the book store and picked up Sophie Kinsella’s latest read, My (not so) Perfect Life.

Sophie Kinsella

I was initially attracted to the green cover and the pop of pink.  I had read Sophie Kinsella avidly in my early 20’s (I mean, didn’t everyone read the Shopaholic series?) so I knew her style of writing would be the perfect beach read for the Dominican.  Little did I expect this “sparkling, witty novel about social media… and the stories we tell ourselves” would lead to some humbling highlighting and extra epiphanies that week.

Sophie Kinsella’s latest novel is about a girl named Katie having a quarter life crisis while living in the city of London and pretending she has it all.  I guess it hit home for me because I went through a quarter life crisis (more on that later).  Hell, some people might think I just rolled that quarter life crisis right into a third life crisis and are wondering if I’m ever going to come to grips with reality.  (Newsflash, my reality is awesome, most of the time.)  The other reason that it hit home is because from this little 2×4 mile island I see how social media has effected & affected our society, everything has rose colored glasses.

I thought back to a few months ago when I posted a photo of myself and my boyfriend on Instagram and someone commented under it “you are living my dream life” or something along those lines.  It got me thinking, why am I living their dream life instead of them?  I guess from my social media feed it could seem like I have it all but there’s a saying, if we all threw our problems in a pile, and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.  And this is so true.

Everyone has and is fighting a different battle, even those who seem to have it all.   My contributions to the problem pile would likely be cancer, drug addiction, debt, divorce, anxiety, death and dozens more.  The point is that we’ve taken sugar coating things to the next level.  Living in Key West I cannot tell you how many people I see putting on a show for their Snapchat story or posing for the perfect Instagram photo.  It’s honestly funny sometimes,  picture this:  8 girls pay about $1000 to come to Key West for a weekend of bachelorette festivities.  At dinner every one of the girls is on their phone texting people who aren’t with them.  Then one girl says, ok, guys let’s take a group pic.  5 minutes of primping ensues, girls who were scowling at their phone 2 seconds before have a fake ass smile plastered across their face as they tilt their neck up and check out, snap the pic, approve by all 8.  One person doesn’t like it, retake, ok approved, now we can all post the same picture to let everyone that I’ve been texting the whole time how much fun we are having…

Admit it, you’ve done it.  I have too I’m sure.  But the fact that it has become the new normal is a little disturbing.  Does everything have to be documented?  Is it even possible to go out to dinner without taking a photo of the food you ordered (#doitforthegram #foodporn #blessed)?

This shit is intimidating and it makes others feel like everyone else’s life is perfect except for their own.  Why do you think those no make up photo challenges are so successful on Instagram?  Because it makes people relatable and normal.  Only freaks of nature look Instagram worthy when they first wake up.  Not that I wouldn’t want to be one of those freaks, just two days ago I had just gotten out of bed and was getting coffee and Ed, my boyfriend, said to me “What’s up Hagrid?”…

hagrid gif

I busted out laughing because it was funny and true.  I was looking a little Hagridish.  Maybe I should have snapped a pic and used it as my no make up photo, eh, there’s always tomorrow…

I guess the moral of the story is that life isn’t perfect and that’s ok.  Shit happens to everyone despite what is being posted on social media and if you find your self comparing your journey to others remember the saying, “if we all threw our problems in a pile…”

Things are good and life is good, I’m trying to be more present and instead of taking a photo or posting about a positive experience I’m trying to stay in the moment and appreciate it for what it is.  I’m working very hard to not to compare my journey to others, to stay in my lane, and to keep shoveling sunshine.

Happy Monday, cheers!








What’s Your Title?

Right now I’m reading this book called “You Are A Bad Ass.  How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Live an Awesome Life” by Jen Sincero. I’m not going to lie, the bright cover and BADASS in all caps is what drew me to the book but the content is just as colorful.


If you need a pick me up, or even if you don’t, I suggest reading this gem.  “In this refreshingly blunt how-to guide, Sincero, serves up 27 bite-sized chapters full of hilariously inspiring stories, life-changing insights, easy exercises and the occasional swear word.”

Like many self help books, each chapter starts with a quote, author of the quote, and a title. i.e.  “I carried a watermelon” ~Francis “Baby” Housman, college student, dancer, philanthropist.

A few chapters in one of these quotes and titles stuck out to me and I haven’t stopped thinking about it since.

“When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears” ~ Anthony Robbins, speaker, motivator, life-changer.


Speaker.  Motivator.  Life-changer.  Let those words sink in.

Those are some pretty awesome words to describe someone.  And I thought to myself, well shit, I want that to be my title too.  So, where do I begin?

First I should get over my fear of public speaking.  It’s really not my strong suit and I usually break out into hives (the severity depends on the size of the crowd).  But honestly, I feel like I’ve got some great things to say and I need to get over it.

Motivator.  I think I have that one down but there’s always room for improvement.

And life-changer.  This one is particularly funny and grabbed my attention because my buddy Paul, my sister, and myself have a running joke refer to Kate as “life-changer”.  But then after reading the term life-changer describing someone other than my sister, I had another lightbulb moment.  Aren’t we all life-changers?  Don’t we all change someone’s life in one way or another every day?  I mean, at least that’s what I strive to do.  I kid you not, every day I wake up I think to myself, how can I make someone’s day better.  I think that’s the start to changing someone’s life, first start with changing/ brightening their day!

So as we head into the weekend, some food for thought… What sayings would you like to be remembered by.  And more importantly, what’s your title?

“Get with the gets” ~Krystal Thomas, writer, motivator, flow amplifier, life-changer



Everyday is Friday!

Raise your hand if you feel like every day is Friday!  I’m raising both hands, one because I am living my dream and I do feel like every day is Friday here in The Keys, and the other because I honestly have no freaking clue where my weeks go.  I mean, I could tell you by looking at my iCal what I’ve done over the past week, month, year, etc., but time is going by so fast.  Where does my work week go?  Where do my weekends go?  Where are my beloved Super Soul Sundays?!  Every day is Friday…


They say when you ask the Universe for something you should be ready to receive it.  First, I’m going to tell you about the past year I’ve had (since I’ve only written four (4!!!) blog posts in the past calendar year we have some catching up to do!) because it’s pretty amazing and while I know that it wasn’t just one thing that made everything come together, there was one tool I used that changed my life and sent me on the craziest ride of my life (so far)… The Map.


I should start by saying I have anxiety.  Bad.  Like really bad.  Like to the point that it physically effects me.  So last June I went to my doctor and long story short she told me that she could put me on some meds to take the edge off.  We talked a little about spirituality and  I left the doctors office with a prescription for an anti-depressant and a book recommendation for The Map.  I filled the scrip and ordered the book on Amazon.  Two months after starting the meds I stopped taking them but I still kept reading the Map and doing the work.  And I do mean work.  And then #BOOM. It starts happening.

Probably a coincidence right?  I read a book, did some soul searching and then like a magic dream start coming true?  No, it’s not a coincidence.  Its intentional.  Because I stated my intentions with a smile every morning to myself in the mirror and made myself and the Universe listen.

I have made some wonderful new friendships, not only personally but professionally as well; met the man of my dreams (#Edwinning),  sold almost $7million in real estate in 2016 and became debt free, and hope to purchase my first home by the end of the year.  I attribute it to The Map.   Everyone should read this book.  What’ve you got to lose?

The Map is a book about the law of attraction and how the Universe will respond to your desires.  It teaches you how to have an attitude of abundance instead of lack.  Think about it… if you only focus on what you don’t have how are you going to bring what you want into your life?  You are focusing on the lack rather than the abundance.  Want to get out of debt, start being grateful for the pennies you find on the streets and the pennies will turn into dollars.

So in closing, every day is Friday for me because I’m so damn busy living my dream, and you should be too.  Cheers!


Singing in the Shower, La La Di, La La Da…

I’m not a morning person.  Never have been, although I do have to say that I’m getting better as I’m getting older.  Summer 2009* I was having a particularly hard time getting up for work in the morning (had nothing to do with the fact that I was closing down bars 4 nights a week…) so I asked my friend Dirt** who worked for a landscape company and had to be to work at sunrise what the secret was to waking up early.  He said you have to take a cold shower and belt out your favorite tunes.

* Summer 2009 will go down in history as one of my favorite summers of all time.
**  I’m pretty sure Dirt’s nickname came before the job at the landscape company but can’t be 100% sure.  Which came first, the chicken or the egg?

To have a successful shower singing experience I’ve found that you need to have 3 basic things:

1.  A Shower.  Preferably an outdoor shower but I understand that not all of us can afford the same luxury that we have here in Key West, especially in December, so any old shower will due.

Outdoor shower

Please note I have no idea who’s shower this is but I can promise you that one day I will have an exact replica.

2.  A Speaker.  If you’re going to be legit you have to have a legit speaker.  I highly recommend this one.  It’s awesome, has a suction cup and is only $19.99 on Amazon.

Or, if are ok with 1/2-assing it you can throw your phone in a cup and hope it projects over the sound of the water.
Phone in cup

3.  A Song.  Or in my case song(s).  Here’s a few of my recent faves, which will also give you a pretty good indication of how random my choice in music is.  You can also find  my playlist Singing In The Shower on Spotify.  You’re welcome.

1.  Shower-  BeckyG
Obviously this makes the top of the list.

2.  Marvin Gaye-  Charlie Pruth (featuring Megan Trainor)
And so does this song because I can’t get it out of my damn head.  And I guarantee the same thing will happen to you now…

3.  Smoke A Little Smoke-  Eric Church
Something about that verse, “kick back give the blues a spin, break out the wine, begin again.  Dig down deep, find my stash, light it up, take me back…” just makes me want to start line dancing in the shower.  *Sigh* If only it were larger than 2’x2’…

4.  Where Are You U Now-  Skrillex & Diplo (featuring Justin Bieber)
You can say you don’t like Justin Bieber.  Yeah, he acts like a douche sometimes and has a history of making poor decisions but I dare you not to sing the chorus by the end.

Night At the Roxbury

5.  Bad Blood-  Taylor Swift
All hail The Queen.  Bad Blood has been #1 on the charts for 5 weeks in a row.

6.  Sugar- Maroon 5
Sing it with me!  Adam Levine… yes please.  Won’t you come and put it down on me.

Adam Levine

I hope that’s a joint and not a cigarette.

7.  Whatever You Like-  T.I.
This song always makes me feel like a boss.  I don’t know why, none of it is really applicable to me.  I just always feel gangster AF when I’m rapping in the shower and know all the words.

My chick could have what she want, And goin’ every store for any bag she want, And know she ain’t never had a man like that, To buy you anything ya heart desire I that. #boom


8.  On To Something Good-  Ashley Monroe
What a great way to start the day.  I feel like I’m onto something good…  belt it out, that’s EXACTLY the kind of energy you should be putting out into the universe first thing in the morning!  Or anytime of day for that matter.

9.  Hypnotize-  The Notorious B.I.G
Biggie Biggie Biggie, can’t you see, sometimes your words just hypnotize me.

10.  I Wanna Dance With Somebody-  Whitney Houston
Saving all my love for you Whitney.  This will always has and always will be my jam.


Why Be Good, When You Can Be Awesome?

It’s a simple little question:  How are you?  And yet so many people answer it the same boring, grammatically incorrect way; “I’m good”.  BLAH!  In my opinion being good is so boring.  Who wants to be good?  Not me, I want to be awesome.  Wasn’t it René Descartes who said “I think therefore I am”?  If you insist René… I think I’m awesome, therefore I am awesome.


Here’s the other reason why you need to come up with something better than good:  we are constantly giving and receiving energy from the universe; and the energy you put out the universe is the energy you draw back into your life.  So why would you want to just put out good energy when you can can put out awesome energy.  Reap what you sow bitches!

Speaking of reaping what you sow… tomorrow starts a 21-day mediation challenge from Deepak Chopra.  They are guided mediations that are about 20 minutes long and a great way to begin or cultivate your mediation practice.  The theme of the meditation is Energy of Attraction:  Manifesting Your Best Life, go figure!